Series - 6th sign you are a moody $%^#!@ - you do not stand by what you say
This is the sixth post in a series of posts titled “10 signs you are a moody $%^#!@..” You can also read what I wrote for the first, second, third, fourth and the fifth signs. Thank you.
The 6th sign is here, and so are you. I am happy and would like to thank you for reading this. Before we proceed, as usual, I would like to invite you, but not your moodiness, to read the following post. If I am the one who made you moody about something, please read on, as you seem to be coming back for more and more posts, which means you like me or my writing even if I made you moody. That is really good!
Following is the 6th sign that you may be a moody $%^#!@.
6 : You say something today, and then tomorrow you do not stand by it
Vera suggested this sign as she also experiences this from time to time. You may be a moody person if you say different things from time to time to other people, and then regularly not stand by what you said. You tell people things you will either do or plan to do, and other people start doing things also because of what you say. Later on, you just change your mind for no good reason, and other people end up wasting their time and thus avoiding you later on as you are simply a person who says things without meaning them. Take a look at the following example, where I briefly describe a situation I go through every week where I meet such moody people.
An example of how some people ask me to be part of online projects when they really aren’t serious
I get at least 2 online proposals every week by people who ask me to either guest blog or be part of a writing project somewhere. Recently, I got an online proposal to help someone work on a book about blogs. I agreed, since I am myself writing a book on blogs. I worked on ideas and writing styles for her book for almost 3 weeks, putting work for my own book aside. Each week, I would e-mail her some updates. Three weeks later, after I had done a lot of work, I got an e-mail from her saying something along the lines of “Wow, you have done a lot, I was traveling and do not know if I may be able to start this book this year. I will keep you updated! Thanks.” Here is the funny thing: she had asked me to help her before as she was “desperate“, and told me to start right away if I could. After I did all the work, not only had she not done anything, she was not even serious about writing a book yet.
You may be allowing either happy or negative moods to affect your commitment to what you say
Regardless of the exact reason that makes you not stick by what you say, you are simply not a dependable person. You may be having negative mood swings when you change your mind. For example, you might wake up and find something really unpleasant in your home, and allow that unpleasant feeling to change your mind and plans completely, even if you made sure other people plan their parts of life around your plans. That makes you a person who lets emotions take over your actions and interactions with others completely.
Also, you might be having positive mood swings when you plan things. For example, you might feel happy and excited about something, and thus may start thinking positively too much without planning things. Along the way, you may start telling other people things that later, after your happy mood swing has gone away, you simply forget or do not stand by. This results in people wondering if you are simply a liar or a person who can never be trusted.
Forgetting to do something can be ok, but changing your mind simply because of your moods is a sign that you are not good at interacting with others, and are letting your moods take over your ability to decide on things. Such a kind of moodiness makes you untrustworthy, unfortunately, since other people realize that in the long run you say things without actually meaning them.
What do you think of moody people who repeatedly do not stand by what they say?
What do you think of people who say stuff one day, and then the next day they do not stand by what they said? What do you think of the people who ask others to do stuff when they themselves are not serious?
Just like last time, I want to ask you a question because of some very interesting comments by Vivien [inspirationbit] recently: do you see any sign of moodiness in this post, and do you see what kind of things I am trying to label as being moody so far?
Thank you for reading this. I would like to invite you, again, to come back tomorrow and read about the 7th sign that, in my view, makes you a moody person: acting moody around people because of politics!
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( April 22nd, 2007 at 9:22 am )
You know what, Bes? I think that this sign of “moodiness” is the closest one so far to being “moody”
One day the person is in a mood for something and the next day/week that mood disappears and now the person is in a completely different and even opposite mood. Hence the person is suffering from the “moody swings”.
I think I better watch out myself for this sign - being the busy person I am, I risk showing the 6th sign of moodiness. Thanks for the warning.
( April 22nd, 2007 at 12:52 pm )
Thanks Vivien.
I am glad that I am finally hitting the spot, or at least explaining myself clearly. 
Hmmm, being busy may make a person moody, agreed. However, in such cases, a person can realize some kind of a stress or frustration due to work and can easily workaround the problem by not communicating with others when really stressed out. What do you think?
Or maybe a person could simply balance the two, taking breaks in between and actually talking to people during the breaks in order to break free from work. Usually, I think, a person trying to get away from stress will focus on happier things, unless they do not know how to get away from stress, which may bring in more problems and disagreements [and maybe frustrations] when interacting with others.
( April 22nd, 2007 at 4:10 pm )
Unfortunately, it’s not that easy to workaround the problems related to stress and the lack of free time. In my case, it’s not just due to work. And actually I do feel the need to communicate with others to forget about the stress.
Also interacting with others makes me realize that everyone has problems, goes through a stressful period, so I don’t let myself to feel down because I’m not the only one with problems, then why should I add my problems to somebody else. We are all humans, after all, and we shouldn’t forget about staying ones.
( April 24th, 2007 at 4:32 am )
I actually came across a very moody person the other day, this woman at a retail store was definately having mood swings! She was doing her occassion work while this lady came up to her and said: “this clothing here has scratched material…” and the woman responded: “I think you did that when you were trying the clothes on”.. i was like, you didn’t see that happening and yet you are accusing her of doing it.. and then the lady was like: “I want a lower price”.. and women simply said: “take the current price or I’ll sell it to someone else”.. i was like, what’s wrong with her? Wait till you hear this: .. the lady decided to just have it even if it had a few scratches since the design was nice and stuff.. and you know what the woman said? Forget it, go back home and re-think your decision and come back tomorrow to buy it. O_O… then she served me, and was all happy-like.. I was like huh? You are being so rude to someone you don’t know, and then you are being nice to me..(another stranger)..hm, this can tie in with one of your previous moods you mentioned!
( April 24th, 2007 at 1:08 pm )
Vivien-inspirationbit, thanks for the explanation.
I like that point: communicating with others to forget about the stress.
Yes, everyone has problems. Everyone has issues. One person might have had their car stolen and the other may have had a family member die the previous week, and surprisingly, both may be feeling the same depression.
Also, one thing though: one is not always adding to someone else’s stress when sharing problems. Sometimes if a person shares problems without making the listener feel obligated to even say anything, it can help the two feel more confident about each other, and also help the person who has the stress relax more.
I also like your comment about not forgetting “about staying ones.”
Vera, thanks.
I will do my best.
The woman you described is a really good example of a moody person. Whatever frustration or stress or mood swing she had, she let it all out on that other lady, and then turned back to being normal when you came along. That other lady was innocent and simply asking extra questions, and ended up being someone who witnessed the mass horror through the mood swings of a retail store worker. What retail store was this, by the way?
Thanks for sharing Vera! This is a much better example than what I can write for these series.
( April 24th, 2007 at 3:09 pm )
The retail store was Fairweather…
lol, thanks :)!
( April 28th, 2007 at 9:12 pm )
Thanks for answering Vera.
It’s funny that I found a lot of information about them online, but could not find their website, heh. Have you been to that store again? Or run into that lady? I am guessing you haven’t because of being busy. 