Series - 2nd sign you are a moody $%^#!@
This is the second post in a series of posts titled “10 signs you are a moody $%^#!@..” The 1st sign that you are probably moody was that you could not hide the fact that you acted nice only when you needed things from others.
Here we are everyone. We are on our way to reading about the 2nd sign that may make you a moody person. Just like the last time, if you are feeling moody right now, please go shake off that moodiness or go get drunk and then come back to continue reading. If I am the one who made you moody, just keep on reading. What else can I say? 0_0
Following is the 2nd sign that you may be a moody person.
2 : You tend to be rude to new people because of personal issues not related to them
The 2nd biggest sign that you are a moody person is that you act very rude and distant towards new people. Whether you meet someone in person, through a blog comment or via some instant messenger, you act rude and distant, trying your best not to communicate effectively with them. You may call yourself a professional or a careful person in such cases, because you act “distant.” I think such qualities make you more insecure and childish instead. Why? Consider the following example that I ran into before, which will show you why acting in such a way means you do not know how to communicate with new people because of feeling insecure for various reasons.
An example of a girl I knew who acted rude only around new people
I once knew a girl who would act nice around everyone she already knew. At the same time, however, she would act rude around new people. She would meet people for the first time even at her family gatherings and be rude to them. She would disagree with them, ignore them, or even insult them. At first I used to think that she probably had stress from her work or classes, and she was letting off her stress on innocent people. However, I soon realized that the new people themselves were somehow, indirectly of course, triggering something inside of her that made her act rude towards every new person who crossed her path.
One day I brought up the issue indirectly, talking about one of the “new” people she had argued with recently. She told me that because of her past relationships with both friends and boyfriends, she did not trust people easily. I realized that even though she had gone through bad experiences, her inability to control her sadness and anger due to past memories was making her act rude and moody in front of new people, and that was no one else’s fault but her own. That was also probably, and unfortunately, a psychological issue that she needed help with. It was hard for her to make friends, but it was easy for her to insult people. Think about it: would you want to be friends with such a person yourself?
Letting your inner fear and rudeness affect innocent strangers around you will result in all your relationships getting affected negatively
If you are a person who exhibits the above mentality or characteristic, you may be mistaken that just because you are hurt, or even because you may be hot or intelligent, you do not need to smile and act nice towards new people who have done you no harm whatsoever. It just shows that probably one of the two things happened during your childhood:
- You did not learn, nor were you taught, to respect new people that you met
- You ignored the lesson of respecting new people you met
Either way, you probably have a serious problem. Some people even go the opposite way and act rude simply because they think they can. Now, you may be a gangster who acts rude around new people and says “I don’t give a damn what people think!” Well, my gangster-wanna acquaintance, if you were a gangster, why would you be feeling uncomfortable or different meeting new people in the first place? You are not a gangster. You are a punk. Really!
Acting moody in front of new people all the time is a serious problem that you need to address
It does not matter whether you act moody in front of new girls because your past experience tells you that acting serious and macho will help you find dates, or if you want to act moody in front of new guys because your past experience tells you that they all want to have sex with you. The fact that you act moody when meeting new people, for any reason, whether sad or not, shows that you do not know how to act when you meet new people, and thus you let your inner moodiness, no matter why it exists, to take over your interactions with new people. That is a serious problem you need to address, or at least realize and keep in mind.
What do you think of today’s Moody Sign Number 2? Have you ever noticed such people? Have you experienced such a mood yourself? What is your opinion on how such moody people should be treated?
Please come back tomorrow, when I will try a little bit different writing method to have a little bit smaller article than today, to talk about the 3rd sign that you may be moody: acting moody only around people of the opposite sex [male/female] because of stereotypes!



( April 18th, 2007 at 6:17 am )
Je ne sais pas si vous êtes vrai
( April 18th, 2007 at 1:28 pm )
I think part of it is if you can say i love you and 2 seconds later yell at someone. you’re a moody shit.
( April 18th, 2007 at 3:51 pm )
True. The person didn’t really get to know all these “new” people and start acting really moody before he/she realizes. Another one of those issues of “I can’t control my feelings” .. even though the new people didn’t insult her/him directly. I can’t wait for the 3rd one, sounds interesting :D!
( April 18th, 2007 at 9:20 pm )
When you first met this girl, did she treat you rudely too?
( April 18th, 2007 at 10:29 pm )
toto, thanks for coming to the site and commenting!
For people who do not understand french, “toto” said something along the lines of “I do not agree to what you say.” [Thanks Vivien-inspirationbit for the translation. :)]
Toto, could you please tell me why you disagree? Is there a point I should explain more? I hope you can come back and explain a bit more please.
Thanks again for your comment. I hope I can clear up any confusion or at least explain a bit more when you come back.
Amanda, thanks for visiting the site! I really appreciate it.
That is a very good point! Saying something and then acting completely opposite/different a little bit later, and thus being “a moody shit” like you said. In fact, that is going to be one of the points I will discuss soon. I think I will include this point in my post also!
Thanks again Amanda. I hope you like the other posts also. Please let me know what you think about anything.
Vera, true! :p Yes, one cannot just hate people or be rude to them without even finding out who those people really are and how nice/good those people are. “I can’t control my feelings” is an excuse to hide other issues in life, I agree! The 3rd series is out already, by the way!
Stacee, excellent question! I ran into her in a class once where we just quickly exchanged icq messaging information because of a class we were in. We were really busy, or at least I was, so I would end up running to the class and running out quickly. With about 200 or so students in the class, I would rarely be able to spot her sitting somewhere. Then, we talked online a lot, and in the first few weeks, she would be very serious and up to the point. Later, after we exchanged our online profiles and did a few webcam sessions, she started opening up a bit. When we met in person, I did not notice her acting rude to me at all. She was just a bit quiet, and then became really comfortable and happy around me.
Does that help? I am guessing something happened in her life [that made her be rude to new people] after we did chatted online, or maybe the online chatting was a way for her to get to know me more and I did not notice much of her rudeness online? I am not entirely sure of the exact reason why I did not experience her wrath when I met her in person for the first time.
( April 22nd, 2007 at 4:39 pm )
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