If I could, I would spend all nights in the fog. Until, of course, I see someone with a hook.

Thought: Are online social networking sites destroying the offline socializing skills of people?08.09.07

I get messages and friend requests on different social networking sites daily. I sometimes visits the different profiles of new people that invite me to do something. Visiting different people helps me figure out how different people socialize online. There is a growing trend where people act in different manners that they themselves consider to be smart, and they assume that such online actions, related to socializing, make them smart in the offline world. In reality, when you observe such people, including yourself, you realize how being good at online socialization actually destroys a lot of out offline socializing skills.

We become so good at interacting int he online social networking world, that we start acting in the exact same manner, as we would online on a social networking site, in the offline world also, forgetting all the extra variables that come into play in the offline world. I wonder if the online socializing networking sites are helping people destroy their own offline socializing skills, by over-simplifying the concept of communicating with others.

Do online social networking sites both help and damage communication skills?

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Thought: Are personal blogs the least manipulative kind of blogs when it comes to the idea of earning money?08.07.07

This is a thought that was intended to be only a few lines long, and yet it has turned into an extensive article of some sort. Since personal thoughts are important and even a single thought can be expressed in a dozen books, I hope you do not mind the length of this article, as the message inside it is very dear to me. I appreciate your time reading this, if you decide to read it all. If not, I appreciate your time reading this very paragraph. Knowing someone has read even a single letter written by me on my site is a very interesting feeling.

This thought and endless variations of it have been on my mind since the beginning. I am noticing an increasing trend where an increasing number of bloggers are manipulating their readers in order to make money. More and more blogs are talking about making money in different ways, and more and more people are saying that their blog readers come first, when in reality all they are doing is saying things, without actually doing anything. In this article, when it comes to talking about the idea of manipulating, you can keep in mind that money is usually a big factor why people manipulate others. Also, you can keep in mind that by the the very words “writing” and “reading” and any of their variants, I am referring to all forms of creating thoughts and all forms of feeling those thoughts, including writing and reading, speaking and hearing, producing and feeling, touching, etc.

It is sad, yet not completely surprising that that original personal blogs, from the original days, which did and do nothing but talk about random things because they want to, are slowly disappearing. They are being replaced by blogs that exist in order to make money, and blogs that are highly influenced by the idea of money earned directly or indirectly through and because of those blogs. I wonder if the simplest of personal blogs are the least manipulative compared to other kinds of blogs.

Simplest personal blogs aim only to be heard - nothing else

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Thought: When is criticism real, and when is it only a linkbait?07.19.07

I have been thinking about trends in the online world where it is easy to call any criticism a piece of writing that is not worthy of anyone’s time. Imagine you wrote an article talking about how bad your employer is, and I wrote an article saying that the only reason you criticized your employer on your blog was to gain traffic for your site. What would you think?

I wonder if such a thing is justified. I also wonder if there is any absolute way to make sure something was written with some good intentions, or if something was written only to generate traffic for one’s site. Without such an “absolute way“, it can be hard for anyone to criticize anyone else and not be labeled as a person who criticizes others just to gain publicity and traffic.

Example: Connor Wilson saying that Franky criticized Matt Mullenweg only to get traffic

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Thought: Blogs and Résumés05.31.07

With more and more people having blogs, it is interesting how many employers are searching for employee blogs in order to find out more about them. Sure, your résumé is important, but the way you actually act online also shows a side of you to your employers.

Type your name in a search engine to find out what the internet says about you, since your future employer will do the same. I think in the very near future many employers, from both the online and offline fields, will give your blog more value than your résumé.

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Thoughts: On when not to link to other blogs in your posts05.03.07

You read it on almost every prominent blog: “Link to others.” Many people preach it, as if not linking to others would result in damnation in the blog world. I like linking to other sites for only one reason: I want to link to other sites because they have some interesting information related to something I am writing.

There is one situation, however, when you should avoid linking to others. If you link to others with even the slightest hope that the person you linked to will link back to you, you have probably biased your article, consciously or unconsciously, to include a link so that you can hopefully get a link back. In my view, that can be a very bad thing unless you know for a fact that such is not the case.

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Thoughts: On Virginia Tech Shooting & Day Of Silence04.20.07

The writing below is an extension and a neat revision of the original comment I wrote for a post by Vivien on InspirationBit called “Can Silence Say More Than A Thousand Words?” The article below may be a bit disorganized and too long for some people, for which I apologize. This exact article will be mailed to the family of those who died, including the family of the shooter, if I can find all their addresses.

Why am I talking about One Day Of Blog Silence?

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Thought: On looking at mass emails as a group and as an individual03.19.07

I received an e-mail yesterday from Broc Copeland in which he told me that my readers may be interested in a MyBlogLog Giveaway. It is a contest where people who subscribe to Broc’s MyBlogLog community get added to a contest to win two nice printers. Browsing his site, I found out that he had also e-mailed a lot of other bloggers about the same contest. I thought of a question then: while mass e-mailing can be intruding or even a form of spam, when is mass e-mailing a good thing, and when is it a bad thing?

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