You may be reacting to things because you see others reacting also
Would you not feel a bit more comfortable than usual walking or driving by two fighting men if you saw everyone else walking, standing and driving by them without any hesitation? We usually consider something good or bad depending on how others react to it. Yet, we rarely try to figure out and realize if we react to things based on how others react or if we react based on our own assessment of the situation. Such a realization can help you react based on good judgment.
Online, copying reactions is easier than creating your own reactions
Similarly, on the internet you may see people agreeing with certain things while criticizing other things. Focus on why people agree or disagree instead of focusing on the number of people who agree or disagree with something or someone. Even if the people you respect or idolize react in a specific way to something, try to learn by observing and analyzing instead of copying those people and reacting in the same exact way.
What about the two fighting men at Costco?
As for the two fighting men at Costco, they turned out to be two customers who wanted the same parking spot right next to the store entrance, even though the adjacent spots to that specific parking spot were empty. Maybe there were other reasons I am not aware of. Otherwise, when it comes to the invisible pride of not backing off with dignity, I guess sometimes we want something desperately simply because we notice someone else reacting the same way.
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