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The Twitter "Follow Me Back!" Trend

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I followed you besz why you no follow me back?

Do you complain if someone doesn't follow you back on Twitter?

There is a new emotional outbursting trend going around on Twitter. Hundreds of thousands of Twitter users, if not millions, are engaging in it daily. It is the trend of expecting and demanding others to follow you back on twitter, if you follow them. It is the trend of “Follow me back!” Almost no one realizes that it is a disease. Yet it happens every hour on Twitter.

Why do people expect you to follow them back on Twitter? Do people follow others on Twitter in order to be followed back? While a very large number of people actually cry and complain if they are not being followed back on Twitter, the trend of yelling “Follow me back!” remains a very obsessive one, showing the drama or emotional neediness in people’s lives. Such people are actually feeling the need to be given attention, the way they try to give others attention. Such people are actually very unstable, since their offline obsession with being followed back stems from their offline character.

So is the “Follow me back!” trend a good trend to increase networking? Or does “Follow me back!” trend create unnecessary drama? Today The Reasoner shall discuss with you the follow-me-back obsession trend that has rarely been discussed before in the online world.

“Follow Me Back Or I’ll Complain!”

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The Lie Called "I’m Sorry!"

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If you can remember the last time you said “I’m Sorry” to anyone, chances are you also remember the reason you said such a thing. While saying “I’m Sorry” can do good in many situations, the phrase itself may be making you a liar because you may be saying it without actually feeling or being sorry in any degree. People lie every day. That is an observable fact. One of the most common uses of a lie for many people is to get out of some sort of trouble. Apologizing is one thing that many people turn into a lie, in order to get out of situations where not lying would put them into greater trouble. You may be saying “I’m Sorry” a lot just as a lie, simply because you see others doing it too.

How people say they are sorry a lot and lie

Are you lying when saying that famous sympathetic phrase of an apology?

People lie to get money, and people lie to blame others for a problem. People say they’re sorry when someone falls down in front of them, and people say they’re sorry when someone tells them a sobbing personal story. People say “I’m sorry” when someone tells them about the death of someone, and people say “I’m sorry” when someone notices their evil nature. You yourself may be lying to others by saying sorry regularly simply to use a smart phrase to quickly accomplish a feat that a long elaborated lie could probably not accomplish any better.

So do you know why you say “I’m Sorry” regularly or even at all? We can look at a few reasons and see whether or not your apology falls into the lying category.

5 Reasons We Lie When Saying “I’m Sorry!”

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What If Everyone Wore Name Tags

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Would you wear your name tag everywhere?

Would you wear your name tag everywhere?

How many of your online contacts know your full name? Chances are that many of them know you only by your first name or nickname. In a world where millions of online users are using nicknames to hide their real names, many people are sharing their full name with everyone else. We spend so much time in our lives trying to remember the names of others, we may simply come up with some better solution that can allow us to spend our energies on something better.

Enter my idea of a name tag. The idea of a name tag probably got a lot of attention because of a character “The Non-Fat Yogurt” episode of Seinfeld Season 5 suggesting wearing a name tag as part of the law. While people shrugged off such an ideas as just being part of a TV show, name tags are a reality in almost every corporate exhibition and event, consumer event shows and even the regular meetings at your nearby coffee shop. What I wonder is how we would be if everyone wore a name tag everywhere. Our name tag would be on us, visible to everyone else, anytime we leave the house. In fact, when we have parties or gatherings at our homes, we can wear a name tag there too so that everyone remembered or found out our name. The idea of thinking such a possibility opens up the question of how we actually would be if name tags became part of our everyday lives.

Would you wear a name tag everywhere you go? Let us look at some of the things that wearing name tags can bring to our lives so that you can decide the answer.

How the Society Would be With Name Badges!

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5 Reasons to End Friendships

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5 Reasons to End Friendships

Do you have friendships you should end?

Friendship. That is one word you probably think about daily if you are on Facebook, Twitter or MySpace. From your contacts to co-workers to people you meet offline, there may be people you call or consider “friends” every day. Your mental and physical interactions with such friends constitutes a big part of what is called a “friendship.” You may be one of those people who is not bothered by any kind of friendship, or you may be someone who realizes that friendship affects your life regularly.

Friendship is not an obligation. Friendship is voluntary. The same way you can try to start friendship with anyone you wish, you can stop friendship with anyone you wish too. The reasons for stopping friendships usually do not matter, because someone may simply not be interested in a friendship anymore. Even then, you may think you need some reasons that you can use to justify ending some friendship. Your friendship may need a cease and desist order by you if your life is simply going down because of it. Your friendship is supposed to provide you value or at least not hurt you in almost any manner.

Instead of justifications, the following 5 reasons are probably good enough to end a friendship you may be contemplating about lately.

5 Powerful Reasons to End Your Friendships

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10 Reasons People Hate You On Facebook

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The Reasoner: 10 Reasons People Hate You On Facebook

Do People Hate You On Facebook?

Facebook is considered the most popular and widely used social networking site in today’s world. The closest competitors, Twitter and MySpace, both have already drawn a lot of criticism because of the annoying things people can do on those two networks. People get criticized a lot for tweeting too much on Twitter, and people get blocked on MySpace for having backgrounds that give other people seizures and vision problems. Facebook is no different when it comes to getting people hated for their annoying habits.

With anything that becomes popular with the mainstream communities comes the chance of a lifetime: make people hate you! Like email, Facebook can be used properly and Facebook can be abused in order to gain something. Some people abuse other Facebook users by spamming them with money-making program links and messages, while others abuse their contacts through inappropriate tags. In the end, you can easily annoy other people and make them hate you by doing some specific things.

So today, let us go through the Facebook journey of losing your face among your Facebook friends and contacts. You and I are going to explore the 10 reasons, or ways, you make people hate you on Facebook.

10 Reasons You Are Hated On Facebook

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Question: What Makes You Jealous?

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Every single day, you probably notice things that you wish were yours. Every single day, other people probably notice things in and about you that they wish they had. Such notices, or observations, lead to a feeling called jealousy. The act of becoming jealous takes a few simple observations and thoughts. You may very well be aware, by this point, about what makes you jealous. You may, on the other hand, not realize the things that make you jealous. Today’s question revolves around those 2 instances in both the online and offline worlds.

Today I am asking you a question that may have been revolving in your head as long as you can remember. It may also be a question that may affect you for the rest of your life. What makes you jealous?

10 Random Things That Make You Jealous

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How You Can Send Effective Texts In 10 Ways

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Effective text messages by you in 10 waysThere is one thing you may want to touch more than everything else every day. This “thing” may be something you touch more often than even a regular desktop or laptop keyboard. This thing is the cell phone keypad or keyboard, and you most probably touch it intensively to send text messages.

Today, you and I are going to learn about texting effectively. It is very easy to simply send a single word or an essay via a text message. It may, however, be a bit hard to realize what the proper etiquette of text messaging are. After you understand and realize these 10 important ways to send effective text messages, your text messaging habits can actually change to make text messaging another part of the common sense part of your life.

How you can send effective text messages in 10 ways

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Question: Do you prefer Facebook or MySpace?

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Today’s question is pretty simple. I have both a Facebook & a MySpace account at the moment. Based on this post and what you may already know about these two services, do you prefer using Facebook or MySpace? For this question, please assume that you are simply offering an opinion on one of these networks being better in your opinion, regardless of your liking for online social networks in general.

Facebook & MySpace target the same people using different requirements

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The Bygone Initiative – The Aftermath

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Before I talked about The Preemptive Initiative, and people were going wild about it. I had dreams of some people saying that their lives were completely changed, and also a dream where some some people said that they were naming their children in preemptive ways also. Today I would like to take a step in another direction to open up the possibility of applying the principle of “Let bygones be bygones” to everything. What that saying means that since something has already happened, there is no need to worry or stop over it. Forgive and forget, or forget and repeat the forgetting is the central theme in such an initiative.

Imagine if you followed my preemptive initiative on one day, and my bygone initiative on the other day. Would you feel happier? Would you feel sad? Would you come home in bandages? Or would you simply realize how funny life can be? You decide and let me know please. Allow me to explain what the Bygone Initiative can do for you in a day very briefly. (more…)

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Question: Would you skip offline activities in order to chat with an online person?

By Bes Zain in Online 39 Comments


This is a very simple question that affects me on a daily basis. It is a question that is slowly ceasing to exist in any form: the offline world vs. the online world, due the the association and interaction I have with people online. Let us imagine a scenario where you question the validity of giving more importance to chatting someone online, to obtain nothing other than satisfaction from that chatting, compared to offline activities.

For this question, let us assume that you have no financial interest in that online contact with whom you are chatting, and that you interact with that online contact simply because you enjoy or value it in some manner other than to pass time. Would you give up some offline activities, on a one-time basis or even regularly or randomly, in order to chat online with someone that you have never met offline?

Some things offline that you may skip:

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