Comments on: Thought: On comparing physical appreciation with mental appreciation http://thereasoner.com/articles/online/thought-on-comparing-physical-appreciation-with-mental-appreciation Analysis of Reason - Finding out the reasons for the insanity in the universe Fri, 21 Nov 2008 09:36:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Bes http://thereasoner.com/articles/online/thought-on-comparing-physical-appreciation-with-mental-appreciation#comment-24189 Bes Wed, 11 Apr 2007 17:18:50 +0000 http://thereasoner.com/blog/thought-on-comparing-physical-appreciation-with-mental-appreciation/#comment-24189 lo.. You are funny and way too observant, which is awesome! Yes, sorry, it was supposed to be "<em>What</em>", heh. :p Nice! It makes more sense now. I personally would not want something fake, or if the recipient stayed around because of guilt. I wonder if many people even focus on finding out whether or not certain feelings that they get are fake or not, or if people are returning favors of any kind simply because they feel guilty otherwise? I see so many similar cases almost everyday, I should start a posting series or a blog talking about similar things and what happens to people in the end. I guess one should feel extremely lucky if they are with someone who sincerely returns sincere favor only because they want to? lo.. You are funny and way too observant, which is awesome! Yes, sorry, it was supposed to be “What“, heh. :p

Nice! It makes more sense now. I personally would not want something fake, or if the recipient stayed around because of guilt. I wonder if many people even focus on finding out whether or not certain feelings that they get are fake or not, or if people are returning favors of any kind simply because they feel guilty otherwise?

I see so many similar cases almost everyday, I should start a posting series or a blog talking about similar things and what happens to people in the end. I guess one should feel extremely lucky if they are with someone who sincerely returns sincere favor only because they want to?

]]> By: stacee http://thereasoner.com/articles/online/thought-on-comparing-physical-appreciation-with-mental-appreciation#comment-23890 stacee Tue, 10 Apr 2007 06:11:13 +0000 http://thereasoner.com/blog/thought-on-comparing-physical-appreciation-with-mental-appreciation/#comment-23890 "That line you quoted, “<i>When if after all the love in the….</i>” it was supposed to start with a “<i>When</i>“; I corrected the sentence now." Sorry, but I can't help but laugh at that :) "What I was referring to was the interest and the intention of the giver; would they feel affected or obliged to rethink their values or ideas of appreciation if the person they try to do favors for or appreciate does not return any favor or give any attention back?" I was referring to the same thing. The question I posed is an extension of that. If they realize that they do want something back, such as attention, would they still want it if it was faked, if the recipient only stayed on the site out of guilt. “That line you quoted, “When if after all the love in the….” it was supposed to start with a “When“; I corrected the sentence now.”

Sorry, but I can’t help but laugh at that :)

“What I was referring to was the interest and the intention of the giver; would they feel affected or obliged to rethink their values or ideas of appreciation if the person they try to do favors for or appreciate does not return any favor or give any attention back?”

I was referring to the same thing. The question I posed is an extension of that. If they realize that they do want something back, such as attention, would they still want it if it was faked, if the recipient only stayed on the site out of guilt.

]]> By: Bes http://thereasoner.com/articles/online/thought-on-comparing-physical-appreciation-with-mental-appreciation#comment-23605 Bes Mon, 09 Apr 2007 07:36:46 +0000 http://thereasoner.com/blog/thought-on-comparing-physical-appreciation-with-mental-appreciation/#comment-23605 That is an interesting idea; making a tangible item yourself. It could be a paperboard, a decoration piece or even a drawing or a letter of some special kind. Hmmm, you may be right: a gift certificate along with a thank you note speaks louder than just a "thank you" alone. That line you quoted, "<em>When if after all the love in the....</em>" it was supposed to start with a "<em>When</em>"; I corrected the sentence now. Regarding that sentence, I was focusing more on the giver than the taker. You are right; acting nice because of feeling guilty, in my view, can be bad. What I was referring to was the interest and the intention of the giver; would they feel affected or obliged to rethink their values or ideas of appreciation if the person they try to do favors for or appreciate does not return any favor or give any attention back? How does that sound? :) That is an interesting idea; making a tangible item yourself. It could be a paperboard, a decoration piece or even a drawing or a letter of some special kind.

Hmmm, you may be right: a gift certificate along with a thank you note speaks louder than just a “thank you” alone.

That line you quoted, “When if after all the love in the….” it was supposed to start with a “When“; I corrected the sentence now.

Regarding that sentence, I was focusing more on the giver than the taker. You are right; acting nice because of feeling guilty, in my view, can be bad. What I was referring to was the interest and the intention of the giver; would they feel affected or obliged to rethink their values or ideas of appreciation if the person they try to do favors for or appreciate does not return any favor or give any attention back?

How does that sound? :)

]]> By: stacee http://thereasoner.com/articles/online/thought-on-comparing-physical-appreciation-with-mental-appreciation#comment-23598 stacee Mon, 09 Apr 2007 06:56:49 +0000 http://thereasoner.com/blog/thought-on-comparing-physical-appreciation-with-mental-appreciation/#comment-23598 You probably already know this, but I like when tangible presents and things are handmade from the person giving it, which is the easiest way to add a personal touch to something. "...physical prizes are better than virtual words..." Well, if the virtual words are "$xxx gift certificate"... that's definitely different than saying "thanks" ;p "When if after all the love in the online world that you give to your readers, they still ignore you after getting all the gifts and simply move on?" Would you prefer that they stay and feign interest out of guilt? You probably already know this, but I like when tangible presents and things are handmade from the person giving it, which is the easiest way to add a personal touch to something.

“…physical prizes are better than virtual words…”
Well, if the virtual words are “$xxx gift certificate”… that’s definitely different than saying “thanks” ;p

“When if after all the love in the online world that you give to your readers, they still ignore you after getting all the gifts and simply move on?”

Would you prefer that they stay and feign interest out of guilt?

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