Question: Should personal questions online be asked only when proper care and attention can be provided?
This is a short, raw, repetitive and a test question for anyone who has been asked a personal question online. This question applies to people who are your online contacts for a while and at the same time are not your friends. Lately, I have been seeing a lot of people ask others personal questions online, and I myself have been asked a lot of personal questions by different people online also. This has me wondering more about whether or not it is in some people’s nature to simply be interested in knowing more about the secrets and dramas of others online without actually caring about the answer. Let me tell you very briefly about this question in different ways to explain what I am trying to pinpoint.
Asking personal questions without caring vs. asking personal questions just to pass time
These people do not seem to be asking such questions to pass time, thus they are different than people who are simply bored and ask random questions just to find their monitors more interesting for a few moments. The people related to this question may probably be bringing their prying-characters online into the online world so that they can find out more things about others just to have a vault of dramas that other people experience. Maybe there is something else going on that needs more thought.
Should real care and attention be given to personal answers, after asking the personal questions?
My question pinpoints at whether or not answering personal questions to such people who are not your friends, regardless of the exact type or side of the question, should come with the idea or expectation of having that other personal also give proper attention and response to the answer instead of typical responses like “Oh ok” or “Wow I have no answer to that question” before immediately and randomly moving on to some other random blabbing or some other random personal question. Or would you rather always say “Mind your own damn business!“? If someone asks a personal question, should that person be expected by either themselves or the other person, to actually give thought, attention, respect or something similar to the answer instead of a generic response?
So the question is: Should attention or further response be given to personal answers one gives in response to personal questions online?
Thank you for reading this personal question
Please let me know what you think of this. I am planning to extend this question in other areas related to online bonds, both real and fake, and disconnects, also real and fake, between people. My next questions will probably revolve around the idea of what kind of questions you consider to be personal or non-personal, and whether or not you believe in the concept of personal and non-personal questions. Thank you for reading. I hope the questions I just asked were very personal to you.
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( July 25th, 2008 at 2:40 am )
Here is my thoughts about it:
There’s a particular kind of people who try to gain your credibility in such a way. By asking a personal question, they strive for shortening the psychological distance with you. Whether they have some reasons for that – it depends on a certain case, I would say, generally, yes. However, some try to get near just because they are used to such sort of communication with _everyone_ around (I personally can’t bear such attitude). They ask, then they expect an answer and some personal questions in return.
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( July 25th, 2008 at 11:01 am )
Very good topic, sir.
I have found myself lately in that kind of situations very often. And, i must admit, it is real unpleasant. What i tend to do is to bypass them asap i see such questions. When you have business relationship with someone, then you want to stay within it borders, unless you are planning to personal relationship.
But i assume, that there are people who like to talk about private lives..
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( July 25th, 2008 at 3:04 pm )
Definitely an interesting question. I think there are a lot of different factors, such as what type of question, if the two people know each other, how long they’ve known each other, things they usually talk about…I think no matter what you have to be careful with what you say, because you can’t hear tone of voice in written words! I think you should answer only when you feel comfortable, and if the person keeps asking that question or other ones you don’t like, be more forceful. Let them know it’s not their business and they need to respect that. Now I’m interested in watching where you take this next post on this!
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( August 5th, 2008 at 9:31 pm )
You know, your blog always gave me the impression that you were a very analytical person but I never thought you were this analytical. I can be too but I doubt as much as you.
Anyway, I was fixing some things on my blog and I saw your link so I’m visiting, eventhough I’m not even sure if I’m welcomed to visit it o_O
And about your blog entry, I think people MIGHT not care as much what you have to say at first (whether online or real life) and it can go either way. There has to be some kind of interest (whether friendship, curiosity in some way or SOMETHING) otherwise why would someone bother to ask you something if they dont care about you or your answer?.. the end.
P.S. I miss chatting with you. You were like my only online friend now
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( August 14th, 2008 at 7:32 am )
apreciate a good article
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