Comments on: The concept of being considerate to others http://thereasoner.com/articles/life/the-concept-of-being-considerate-to-others Analysis of Reason - Finding out the reasons for the insanity in the universe Sun, 14 Mar 2010 20:55:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Janet http://thereasoner.com/articles/life/the-concept-of-being-considerate-to-others/comment-page-1#comment-221905 Janet Sun, 25 Oct 2009 04:26:51 +0000 http://thereasoner.com/blog/the-concept-of-being-considerate-to-others/#comment-221905 I'm dating a guy now for three years. We don't live together, however, he comes over often and I make big dinners and send him home with plenty of food for the week and sometimes even make his lunch...If he leaves clothes over my house, I wash them for him. Well, this weekend I went to his house. It was late and raining hard outside with alot of fog. I asked him for a drink..He said that he had soda in the frigerator in the garage. After a while past, I got up and went into the garage to get a can of soda. He was making some other food. I poured myself a little soda and put the rest in his refrigerater. He then said, See I proved my point that you are very inconsiderate because I didnt' off him some soda. I didnt think that he wanted any or he would have asked me for some when Igot up to get it and it was his house so I didn't think anything of it. but he just kept saying that is the way I am and I cant change and I got quite upset becuase I feel that I am a very generous and kind person. Next he told me to get out of his house and go home, so I left. I think it was inconsiderate to ask me to leave in the middle of the night in a bad foggy storm. what do you think I’m dating a guy now for three years. We don’t live together, however, he comes over often and I make big dinners and send him home with plenty of food for the week and sometimes even make his lunch…If he leaves clothes over my house, I wash them for him. Well, this weekend I went to his house. It was late and raining hard outside with alot of fog. I asked him for a drink..He said that he had soda in the frigerator in the garage. After a while past, I got up and went into the garage to get a can of soda. He was making some other food. I poured myself a little soda and put the rest in his refrigerater. He then said, See I proved my point that you are very inconsiderate because I didnt’ off him some soda. I didnt think that he wanted any or he would have asked me for some when Igot up to get it and it was his house so I didn’t think anything of it. but he just kept saying that is the way I am and I cant change and I got quite upset becuase I feel that I am a very generous and kind person. Next he told me to get out of his house and go home, so I left. I think it was inconsiderate to ask me to leave in the middle of the night in a bad foggy storm.

what do you think

]]> By: matt http://thereasoner.com/articles/life/the-concept-of-being-considerate-to-others/comment-page-1#comment-182522 matt Mon, 24 Nov 2008 21:47:41 +0000 http://thereasoner.com/blog/the-concept-of-being-considerate-to-others/#comment-182522 Bes, Thanks for discussing the topic of being considerate OF and being considerate TO others. I'm currently dating a wonderful woman; very intelligent, strong, beautiful and a great cook!....but when it comes to being considerate TO others, that takes a back seat to "well, they're not being considerate to ME." I'm trying to be patient and understanding and while she is considerate OF and TO me, I see an aire of superiority from her when she deals with others in which she places herself above them, which has seeped into her attitude of some traits of my family members. yes, while my fam can be annoying at times, I do love them and they are "where I came from". And she is a "delicate flower"....she doesn't soak up constructive criticism all that well...neither do I, so it is a touchy turn of events when I try to bring such things to her attention. I'm not into hurting people and we get along on so many other things, so it's a tough call. I definitely have to bring it up before much longer, but I guess if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out for good reason. Again, thanks for posting on the difference in OF and TO. Bes,
Thanks for discussing the topic of being considerate OF and being considerate TO others. I’m currently dating a wonderful woman; very intelligent, strong, beautiful and a great cook!….but when it comes to being considerate TO others, that takes a back seat to “well, they’re not being considerate to ME.” I’m trying to be patient and understanding and while she is considerate OF and TO me, I see an aire of superiority from her when she deals with others in which she places herself above them, which has seeped into her attitude of some traits of my family members. yes, while my fam can be annoying at times, I do love them and they are “where I came from”.

And she is a “delicate flower”….she doesn’t soak up constructive criticism all that well…neither do I, so it is a touchy turn of events when I try to bring such things to her attention.

I’m not into hurting people and we get along on so many other things, so it’s a tough call. I definitely have to bring it up before much longer, but I guess if it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t work out for good reason.

Again, thanks for posting on the difference in OF and TO.

]]> By: Letsfixlosal.com response http://thereasoner.com/articles/life/the-concept-of-being-considerate-to-others/comment-page-1#comment-176663 Letsfixlosal.com response Fri, 31 Oct 2008 10:39:15 +0000 http://thereasoner.com/blog/the-concept-of-being-considerate-to-others/#comment-176663 Being considerate has become harder and it is mainly because we have no time to even look after ourselves. We tend to have the feeling that the world is not fair and all that. I think the best thing to do at this moment is that we have to make efforts to first know ourselves and then be good to ourselves. When we feel good, we should then go about making other people happy. It is easy and simple like you said. Great advice and a fresh post! Being considerate has become harder and it is mainly because we have no time to even look after ourselves. We tend to have the feeling that the world is not fair and all that. I think the best thing to do at this moment is that we have to make efforts to first know ourselves and then be good to ourselves. When we feel good, we should then go about making other people happy. It is easy and simple like you said. Great advice and a fresh post!

]]> By: How to Avoid Miscommunication, Embrace Differences and Handle Disagreements » Circular Communication http://thereasoner.com/articles/life/the-concept-of-being-considerate-to-others/comment-page-1#comment-54142 How to Avoid Miscommunication, Embrace Differences and Handle Disagreements » Circular Communication Mon, 06 Aug 2007 18:32:42 +0000 http://thereasoner.com/blog/the-concept-of-being-considerate-to-others/#comment-54142 [...] The Concept of Being Considerate to Others Bes Zain broadens the concept of being considerate from being about being considerate of others to being considerate to others, which is much more direct and relevant when interacting with someone. Then it is not simply about being able to get along with people with different views, but to actually appreciate both them and their differing views. It can thus be seen as a plea not only to accept differences, but to embrace them. Since differences is what makes us unique is it well worth thinking about. [...] [...] The Concept of Being Considerate to Others Bes Zain broadens the concept of being considerate from being about being considerate of others to being considerate to others, which is much more direct and relevant when interacting with someone. Then it is not simply about being able to get along with people with different views, but to actually appreciate both them and their differing views. It can thus be seen as a plea not only to accept differences, but to embrace them. Since differences is what makes us unique is it well worth thinking about. [...]

]]> By: Bes http://thereasoner.com/articles/life/the-concept-of-being-considerate-to-others/comment-page-1#comment-37675 Bes Fri, 08 Jun 2007 10:17:04 +0000 http://thereasoner.com/blog/the-concept-of-being-considerate-to-others/#comment-37675 Thanks <strong>Ronald</strong> for the splendid advice. Next time, I will do that, while ensuring that he/she doesn't get hurt, and yell "<em>Ronald sends you his regards!!!</em>" :) I am guessing some people are not used to the idea of appreciation, or they feel strange, or like you said, they simply do not want to be appreciated. Regarding eye contact, some people just want to walk without interacting, or maybe they appreciate and interact in ways other than eye contacts. If they do it on purpose, though, like you pointed out, maybe they just have not understood or realized the concept of appreciation, or they just want some distance and not get close to anyone, even if it is for a second to a stranger in order to say "<em>Hi</em>" or to share a nice gesture. Or maybe they just feel in their hearts: "<em>Damn! Ronald again...keep walking, don't look at him, he's looking...don't look at him...keep on walking....success!</em>" :) Thanks Ronald for the splendid advice. Next time, I will do that, while ensuring that he/she doesn’t get hurt, and yell “Ronald sends you his regards!!!” Smile

I am guessing some people are not used to the idea of appreciation, or they feel strange, or like you said, they simply do not want to be appreciated. Regarding eye contact, some people just want to walk without interacting, or maybe they appreciate and interact in ways other than eye contacts. If they do it on purpose, though, like you pointed out, maybe they just have not understood or realized the concept of appreciation, or they just want some distance and not get close to anyone, even if it is for a second to a stranger in order to say “Hi” or to share a nice gesture.

Or maybe they just feel in their hearts: “Damn! Ronald again…keep walking, don’t look at him, he’s looking…don’t look at him…keep on walking….success!” Smile

]]> By: Ronalfy http://thereasoner.com/articles/life/the-concept-of-being-considerate-to-others/comment-page-1#comment-37595 Ronalfy Fri, 08 Jun 2007 04:15:22 +0000 http://thereasoner.com/blog/the-concept-of-being-considerate-to-others/#comment-37595 Bes, You should've rammed that sucker in the rear-end and pushed him off the road. How dare he try to occupy one lane on the road?! I do try to be considerate to people such as saying hello, or giving people "the nod". However, some people it seems don't want to be appreciated. For example, this morning I was walking down long corridors in my building and almost every person I stared down in the hallway never once made an attempt at eye contact. Bes,

You should’ve rammed that sucker in the rear-end and pushed him off the road. How dare he try to occupy one lane on the road?!

I do try to be considerate to people such as saying hello, or giving people “the nod”. However, some people it seems don’t want to be appreciated. For example, this morning I was walking down long corridors in my building and almost every person I stared down in the hallway never once made an attempt at eye contact.

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