I’m a guy, as most of you already know from my profile, and I got asked out by someone yesterday. A dinner, drinks, and then an offer to stay the night over at their house, if I wished, was proposed to me. “Yay, Yippeee, Woohoo!” Right? Wrong. Even if you’re already with someone or thinking of someone else, you sometimes feel a kind of subliminal joy or satisfaction, that you’re good enough to attract others, whether you’re asked out directly or indirectly. What if the person who asked you out is considered “HOT” by many other people? Would you be saying “No” immediately if you weren’t interested, or would you be thinking about being polite and maintaining your friendship? For me, even though getting asked out may have been a small honor, somehow I felt really weird and uneasy. Why? The most obvious reason, after the fact that I’m dedicated to someone else mentally, was that the person who asked me out was a guy. And I’m not gay. I’m not Bi either.

This guy is older than me, probably 10 to 15 years older. The people who find him “HOT” are all girls, apparently. I’ve several gay and lesbian friends. We’re all on good terms, and I’ve no problem with anyone’s sexual preference. I personally don’t care. It freaks many people out that I hang around with those people even though I don’t practice the same ideas. I personally don’t care what a personal opinion of anyone is, as long as people are nice and are fulfilling the obligation of living their lives with pride and not hurting other people directly, and vice versa. When a guy asks me out, though, it doesn’t create an issue in my mind, but it does create a feeling of uneasiness. I’ve been asked out indirectly by a few guys in my lifetime, and it was no problem to explain to them about who I am and we’re still friends, but never like this.

I wanted to share this to move on from the topic of whether gay or lesbians are good or evil, a topic that we’re all fighting with each other against. My dilemma is a smaller issue, something I had to deal with without thinking on whether the whole topic is good or bad, and focusing only on that guy and myself in the situation. In this specific situation, being asked out like that was really creepy. It’s like a girl getting scared if a guy asked her for dinner and then told her to have drinks and spend the night in his “one bedroom apartment”, putting a lot of emphasis on those three words. To emphasize my opinion, the situation doesn’t change my attitude over the issue of same-sex relationships, of course. The situation tries to change the attitude, however, in the atmosphere when one tries to hang out with such a guy in the future, after being asked out. It’s like a girl feeling uneasy around a guy who asked her out to something very private, and she had no intention of being close to him even in her nightmares.

Someone told me that I should feel honored for being nice and equal to everyone and thus attracting both sexes. I’m not so sure about that. What do you think about this, if the situation happened to you and your sex [gender, to put it in a more accepted social term]? If you’re not gay or lesbian, what would you do in such a situation? If you’re gay or lesbian, what would you do in such a situation? Would your attitude toward this topic change in any manner? I’ve to meet that guy almost everyday because of going to the same seminars, lectures, places, and even do things in groups with him.

Ohhhh boy, it will be hard to act normal from now on. Now I know how girls feel.