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Observation: Online immaturity to shield disorders

Posted in Life by Bes on Aug 10, 2006

Why do many people get excited over online relationships that they don’t understand, and at the same time, ignore the heeds they are given? These warnings show these people that their emotions are simply a result of being overexcited? These people, when running into something real in life, forget all about their online emotions and act as if nothing ever happened, leaving any other person involved in that online excitedness in a disarray of confusion, thus actually showing that they never cared in the first place. The very emotion that they considered a hallmark of online emotions and superior to their real life becomes the very thing they ignore and consider a hindrance to their new excited self, the emotion they feel in real life. It’s a cycle that keeps on going, something they blame the world for throwing on them, yet it’s a psychological disorder tha they’re not willing to acknowledge or address.

Another type of people act suicidal online, talking about depressing stuff with strangers while not actually having any intention of committing suicide. Some people think that if they talk about life and miseries in their posts, they’ll gain sympathy and a few more online comments. It’s an unconscious desire to be important and gain some attention, attention that cannot be had otherwise in their real life. These people have no intention of committing suicide or being actually depressed in real life, and they themselves make life hard for themselves. Yet, they keep talking about how much they need help, or how life is unfair, without actually describing why life is unfair. When someone actually reaches out for them and sincerely tries to help, they turn around and say that they need something more. They cannot handle any help, because they are not looking for any help in reality. They love living in their dreams of being lazy and inconsiderate and depend on the sympathy factor to get attention, as that’s what they’re aiming for: attention through sympathy, and not any kind of advice, guidance, sincere emotional support or even real help. Why do they do that? Because they know they have not achieved, and probably will not achieve, anything in life because they do not try hard for anything in life. They keep aiming for sympathy, and that’s what they’ll get in the end: they’ll become failures and people will then be sympathetic toward such losers.

Both of these types of people make it harder for people with real life situation to express themselves clearly or to do anything regarding helping others, as the usual channels of communication are clogged with the fake cries of the above two types of children who have everything handed over to them for free by their parents, yet they try to cry all the time as to how life is unfair for them, and they also try to compete in terms of sympathy with people who literally have nothing in life, and with people who want no sympathy from anyone for the darkness that defines them. What these two types of people don’t realize is, because of the fact that the internet is a very new phenomenon in history, something very important: if they keep acting like crying losers in real life who don’t do anything, going online and acting the same won’t make them heros simply because they’re protected by the monitor screen.

They’ll simply be forgotten, blocked and deleted from now on unless they change their ways and acknowledge the situation.

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6 Comments to “ Observation: Online immaturity to shield disorders .” Please leave a comment below, thank you.


  1. jerine :

    is there such thing as online emotion and real life emotion? in my opinion is one has a separate emotion online and in real life, probably s/he is acting to be a person s/he’s not either online or in real life… hmmm….


  2. birdie :

    Oh gosh…your entry brings back all those highschool memories…gahh…we were the crazy online chatroom generation (nowadays these kids have myspace & text messages)…but yes, certain ppl do have split personalities when it comes to being on the internet and the real world. It’s hard to distinguish unless you actually know them…and it does make others rather wary.


  3. sawai :

    The reason I think that a person behaves differently when he/she is online is that the other person is not physically present close to them. So they cannot do anything.

    Some people even reveal some of the most intimate secrets they hold to online friends because they remain anonymous and usually operate with an alias.

    I dunno why people need to live two different lives, but I guess, looking in the eye of somebody and telling stuff is really difficult.

    And yeah, there is a general opinion that sympathy generates attention. Well, infact it does, but its only temporary. Even I hate the guts of the people belonging to these category. They always keep wishing and swearing against anything and everything in the world.


  4. Bes :

    Yes. Online, we can change our emotions to please the other person, or to intrigue the other person. We can act more mature or more childish than what we really are, as it’s sometimes easier to act online than face to face. Yes, like you said, they’re not acting like the person they are in real life.


  5. Bes :

    Heh, those crazy chatrooms, I remember. Now there are special cell phones designed to send text messages to myspace users.

    Lol @ split personalities, that’s a good way to put it.


  6. Bes :

    Yes, you narrowed it down to the main point: the other person cannot do anything.

    Yes, such sympathy is temporary, and that’s something that everyone should know. Unfortunately, majority of the people do not want to accept that, as even a small bit of attention for a short span of time makes them feel better.

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