My uncomfortable friend
I’ve a friend who likes to hang out with me a lot. This is the same friend you’ve read about here lately. Whenever we go somewhere, he loves to talk and loves having a good time. Whenever he hangs out with any of my other friends, however, he’s always quiet and bored. He doesn’t talk to them and he doesn’t interact with any of the other people. He keeps looking around, and lately has been excusing himself for the restrooms or to talk someone on the cell phone.
I’ve tried bringing him to many different groups of people in the last year, and every time he’s either bored, or his face shows signs of torture and crying. It’s really impolite, when he wishes to go and hang out with me and my friends and doesn’t interact with any of my friends, all different types of friends. Even when someone talks to him, he answers with a one-liner and a serious attitude. Sometimes in the middle of a group conversation he will either call someone or answer his phone and say “Yeah no worries, ill be done here soon, will hit you up once im close.” He actually thinks there’s nothing wrong with saying that all the time.
I’m the kind of person who likes everyone to enjoy in a gathering, and if anyone is uncomfortable, I’m uncomfortable and I do my best to make sure that person is not feeling uneasy because of someone in the group or something related to someone in the group. I’ve slowly taken my friend to more gatherings and tried my best to include in every topic possible. He has slowly gone from looking away when someone is talking to him, to looking at the person and excusing himself for the restrooms often. I guess it’s progress; I have to take him out to meet different “normal” people more. Maybe soon he’ll start nodding to whatever people say, instead of taking out his cell phone and talking to others whenever someone looks at him.
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( November 27th, 2005 at 2:14 pm )
Wow… I’m actually like you also, about the other person feeling uncomfortable… Hmm, I wonder why he’s like that… I sometimes feel uncomfortable around people also, but once I get into a conversation with them, I’m pretty much into it, no matter who the person is. Maybe he’s shy around certain people?
( November 27th, 2005 at 6:28 pm )
He’s just open to people his own type, and age; people who’re just looking to pass and waste time in any manner possible and not have any responsiblities. He’s always like that with anyone new, or anyone who’s older than him. Any normal topic or different thing than what he usually does, and he’ll act like above.
( November 27th, 2005 at 8:37 pm )
Hmm… How does he know that someone’s older than him? Just wondering because I didn’t know *he* was older than me, and I was just myself, and usually I’m shy around new people also.
( November 28th, 2005 at 4:35 pm )
Hmm…I wish I had some good advice to give you, but I really don’t. Some individuals are just not comfortable with meeting new people. The reoccuring presence of the new acquaintances might ease thier lack of socializing.
( November 28th, 2005 at 8:06 pm )
Chau — > They act older, or I tell him before hand who they are and how old they are. I do my best to make sure everyone knows all the public [no private] information about others [I never tell the age of any girl to anyone, ever, hmmmm, that's why I'm still alive....jk :p].
I’m shy around new people also, really shy. He’s shy and bored at the same time, unfortunately. He just didn’t want to blend in with anyone else before, and now comes to hang out but is bored to death almost all the time. Like I said, I hope it’s progress….heh.
birdie — > Yes, may be he just doesnt want to meet new people. It’s funny how people can act like gangster in some circles, and in others, can’t socialize.
