One reason behind sympathy
Have you ever heard someone say “Oh, he/she’s cute and going through this! What a pity!” when the thing that “he/she’s” going through is some sort of a condition that is not usually understood by many people? People usually assume that a person might be suffering if he or she is going through a condition that many people in the mainstream society do not experience.
Assuming that someone is inferior in some regard automatically classifies such an assumer as being an immature thinker. How can someone know what the other person feels without going through the same thing? Sometimes, such an assumption makes people feel better about themselves, as they consider their own self to be inferior in their own mind and need a comparison with someone else in order to feel better. Any affection or feeling coming from such a person should not be taken seriously, as such an affection or feeling is being expressed without having any knowledge or sincere interest in the subject matter.
Also, people usually say “He/she’s cute - what a pity that he/she’s going through this.” Have you ever heard them say that to someone who is not cute? Do all people who are not cute not deserve to hear anything similar? Are we so desperate for physical stimulation that anything happening to someone else, regardless of whether it’s good or bad, clouds our judgment and forces us to have feelings for someone based on their physical appearance? Isn’t that an indirect form of being excited because someone feels aroused in probably an indirect and unconscious form?
We should all watch we say and think what it means. Just because it takes 5 seconds to say something doesn’t mean we should say it. Many times, spoken words are more powerful than many actions.
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( June 28th, 2006 at 12:34 pm )
I’ve never heard anyone say that… ????
( June 29th, 2006 at 3:40 pm )
sadly, i’ve heard the oppsite. "ugly" people who are in wheelchairs or other unfortunate conditions have caused others to say that they deserve it for being ugly.
i’m highly intrigued at how physical appearance affects our society.
like people who dress slutty because they want attention, but will glare and/or be pissed off that they get attention - but from someone who isn’t hot.
the other day on bart, two women were flipping through a magazine or catalouge of brand name (or brand name rip-offs, i forget) purses. they were talking about how ugly a few of them were when the purses they had on were hideous themselves. they weren’t great looking women either, and i wanted to tell them that. but it was too early in the morning for me to open my mouth and make words come out
( July 4th, 2006 at 3:54 am )
Valerie — > :O Really? That’s good; means people around you are probably more, hmm, nicer/mature/something-better? Maybe.
Stacee — > That’s very interesting, and a very good point too!
Yes, I see what you mean about wearing something in order to get attention and when they get it, they get po’ed.
Interesting, heh, regarding the way those 2 women acted. I’m sure you did the right thing by ignoring them. :p
( July 6th, 2006 at 10:31 am )
Definitely.
Your post makes me think of the comment by Plaj3r on this page:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=...
Somehow.. that line doesn’t really work on me.
( July 11th, 2006 at 1:17 am )
Yes, those people don’t make sense, and they’re pathetic.