What is love? There is usually not a single universal answer to such a question. Every living creature feels a different attachment to the idea of love. Some people fall in love in order to love, and some people love in order to fall in love. Some people break up in order to love, and some people start being together in order to love. Today, we focus on the idea of loving someone you have never met physically in person. Today, we focus on the idea of loving someone that you may not be able to touch directly. In this article, we focus on the concept of love and people online, with the people online meaning people you have never yet met in person physically in the offline world.
Today, we ask the question: Can you fall in love with someone online?
Your hosts today are Bes and Katie.
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Yes, you can fall in love with someone online.
However, simply being able to fall in love with someone online does not mean that the love is real, or that your views about the validity of what love is are real. Also, another question to ponder about would be: Should you fall in love with someone online?
In order to love someone online or offline, you may want to know what love is.
What is it about love that one pursues? Is it the loneliness, where one focuses on their own desolate desperation in order to simply be locked into a chain with someone else and feel needed? Is it obsession, blinding you from what is really going on and simply thrusting you into being attached to someone else simply to remove your own insecurities? Regarding online love, if we can part ways physically for a few hours with our love so that he or she can go to work or the movies, can the same concept be extended into loving someone online that we have never met?
If we have only loved offline so far, how can we know our feeling or emotion online is love?
Whether it is any of the above reasons, or pure, unharmful and sincere love, the next main question to ask is what you expect to gain from the love connection you may have or feel with someone online. Do you plan to meet that someone physically? Do you wish to continue being connected to that someone virtually? If you can answer the above questions directly, or at least sincerely, and can be curious about them, you can have better chances of falling in love with someone online for the right reasons, and also with the right person. By a “right person“, I am implying a person that may be willing to love back sincerely also, and not a person that many people assume to be the life-long partner.
Simplicity of saying or typing “I love you” may make you think you love someone online.
Online, it is simply easy to say “I love you.” Three words seem to be the focus of many people instead of the meaning that those three words bring. Typing something on a keyboard while feeling a bit hyper can be a completely different emotion than actually being present in front of someone and feeling and saying the same things. That is one of the reasons falling in love with someone online, while not impossible, may be very risky. Such a feeling of falling in love with someone online may be very risky because you may assume that having emotions for someone online may be equal to the feelings of mental and physical attraction you can have for offline people in person, and that you do not care about any physical distance between you and the online person you feel you are in love with.
Thus, in my view, it is possible to fall in love with someone online because of our own feeling of love being sincere in our mind. At the same time, other elements, like the target or our love or elements affecting our love, may actually negate the overall love effect or constitute actual harm and a feeling of fake love and emotion.
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NO, it is not possible to fall in love online.
AH, LOVE WHAT A WONDERFUL THING
What is love? Better yet, what is true love? Every person on this planet desires some form of love, either from family, friends, or a lover. However, the quest to find it these days has gone to a greater extreme than ever before. Nowadays people are searching for their companions over the internet. Websites like Match.com and Eharmony.com promise to find that special someone. It is convenient and easy to look for a partner from the comfort of your own home. However, looking for someone online is not the answer to solving the riddle of love. Today I will be examining why one cannot fall in love (or at least true love) with someone online.
LOOKING FOR LOVE ONLINE
In the fast pace world we live in finding a companion is not easy. Often times we turn to the internet for help. So many dating websites are there at our fingertips. Men and women make profiles and add pictures in hopes of finding a husband or wife, a relationship, a companion, or just to date. This noble quest of finding your princess or prince charming is done by scrolling through page after page of men and women, as if they were a sweater you saw online and you were searching for that right color and fit. People are not garments to be bought online; relationships are not something that should be created and developed online. Finding love is something that cannot and should not be found online.
HOW CAN REAL LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS BE FORMED WITH SOMEONE YOU’VE NEVER MET?
How is it possible to fall in love with someone whom you’ve never even met? How is it that someone you’ve never seen, never touched, never kissed or hugged, never conversed with, never lived with, become someone you love? A relationship takes, and should take plenty of time to develop by spending time with each other, get to know one another, and doing activities together. Love that is online has none of these qualities. A computer screen is the thing you are looking at, not the eyes of a person. You cannot receive a hug from your computer monitor, nor feel the tender touch of holding hands through your keyboard. The world of technology is an amazing thing, but not for dating or meeting people.
IT’S AN INFATUATION NOT LOVE.
The so-called love that people experience online is nothing more than an infatuation, puppy-love, or just plain lust. Real love cannot be formed online. The feelings one gets by experiencing a relationship of romantic type interest online, is only that of excitement. The newness and fun of a potential relationship is what gets people thinking they have or are finding “The One.” The joy they get by seeing that person appear online, or that offline message sent is a joy that should be experienced by seeing them in person or a hand-written note left for you. Love is not something to be played with, especially online.
TRUE LOVE CAN BE FOUND IN THE PEOPLE WE SEE EVERYDAY
In my heart I feel that to find the love we desire, we need to look no further than to those we meet and see every day. Our mother and father, sisters and brothers, friends, and acquaintances can enrich our lives, fill them with love, and make our hearts full of joy and happiness. These are real people we can touch and hug, really laugh out loud with, and create real smiles with, not just the round, yellow smileys on online chats. Love can be found in the world, we just need to get away from our computer monitors and go out and find it.
So there it is. Bes feels that it is possible to fall in love with someone online, along with several outcomes and reasons that must be kept in mind in order to realize whether or not such a “love” is real or not, or effective. Katie feels that is is not possible to fall in love with someone online because falling in love with someone online is actually infatuation in disguise.
What do you think? Do you think it is possible to fall in love with someone online that you have never met? Have you ever felt love towards someone online? Please share in the comments below.
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