There is one person in the world that you usually end up allowing to disturb you while you are eating. This same person is the one that can come in to ask, interrupt, take or bring anything, while you eat and talk to others at your food table. This someone is your waiter. Your waiter, in addition to bringing you a lot of food and drooling, can also bring in a lot of weird habits that fall into the category of being rude to you.
The real job of a waiter is to bring you food, and is to make your food experience a good one so that you can enjoy your food. The existence of tips is one of the reasons many waiters simply focus on a set standard of things aimed to satisfy the typical standards of many restaurants like making sure your water glass is always full, that you have clean plates, and that you are not angry at or with your food at any moment. Such focus has resulted in many waiters not knowing that throwing a plate full of food at you, for you to catch, is not the same as putting the food plate in front of you.
Here are 10 rude things that many waiters do on a regular basis. I notice these trends at so many locations that sometimes I feel I should ask such waiters if they could be featured on my site for bad or rude service.
Ten rude things waiters do to you
- Pour water into your glass by tilting the jug on its side, resulting in water splashes all over you or your table.
- Not help you with your food questions or order if they are not your assigned waiter, but pick up your credit card or cash for payment when you put down your payment on your table. Next time, tell such waiters “Oh no, it’s ok. You did not help me with my crisis of dying in spices without water. I will let my real waiter take care of this and not trouble you at all.”
- Take away your plate if your friend or someone else in your party is still eating, or vice versa.
- Bring you the check very quickly, and repeatedly asking about the payment in different forms just to get you to leave so that a new customer can sit in your place. Like Ponzu in San Francisco telling me and my friends “Anything else before you guys head out?” We were not all guys, and no, we did not want to head out. We wanted to sit there for a while and talk.
- Touch a lot to try to get more tips. More people know about your psychological tactic, now that Bes has told them about it. Touching strangers for pleasure or for money, by trying to make the stranger feel good unconsciously, is perversion, you pervert.
- Touch your plate, glass or spoons and forks all over with bare hands.
- Not pay attention to you when you need help, like when you need a refill of your water glass after you eat something spicy. In my view, unless otherwise noted or told to the customer, a waiter should always keep an eye on the customer in case the customer looks up and around for their waiter. Other waiters should heed to such body language by either helping or by letting the original waiter know about the desperate gazes of the needy, and probably hungry or thirsty, customer. This goes along with point # 2 above.
- Complain or bring up the topic of not getting enough tip from you. Giving a tip is not the law around the planet, and telling a customer that they did something wrong by not tipping enough, in my view, is plain wrong unless there is an actual situation where the customer directly or indirectly promised a tip and then did not tip enough.
- Ask questions while food is in our mouth. This is another tactic used by waiters. When your mouth is full, you may say anything to tell the waiter to get lost so you can chomp down your food, including “Yes, it’s good.” That is why you are always asked a bit-pointed questions. You are asked “Is everything ok?” instead of “I see that your mouth is burning. Is the food too hot?” or “I see that my questions are resulting in your mouth opening so strangely that the teriyaki chicken is falling onto the ground. Should I stop asking you questions till your plate is empty or till you tell me to reappear after disappearing?“
- Giving you too much attention, including asking you about the food or service or your needs and talking to you a lot while you try to focus on eating or while you try to talk to the people you came with.
How does your waiter treat you?
Does your waiter ignore you? Has your waiter given you a shower when refilling your glass of water? Have you been rushed out of a restaurant by an overzealous waiter? Do they give you too much attention? Have you ever said “YES! IT’S GOOD! I’LL TIP YOU REAL GOOD IF YOU GOOOOOO AWAY PLEASE!! 
” while being interrupted from munching on some very juicy treat that you would be paying $15 for?
Are you a waiter yourself? Have you seen any of the above trends in other waiters or experienced them yourself? Have you engaged in any of the above trends for different reasons?
Please let me know what you think in the comments below. Thanks! 
really would like to hear back, im confused as to whom you think you are, im not even a waitperson anymore, but you are so obnoxious, and i would like to hear you say otherwise. with the same esteem as you did in the above writing
I am assuming that you are talking to me. I am just an average American who does not expect a great deal from their server.
Your obnoxious statement is a bit “over the top” since you don’t even know me. If you knew me, you would think otherwise. I have had servers who will tell us that our table is a joy to have or was the best table of the day. They will mention that any time we are in, to request them. So, we must have our good points. Otherwise, they would “head for the hills” or give us to another server. We don’t ask for extra condiments once our food is on the table-we will mention any condiments needed when we place our order. We don’t send anything back-if it’s cool, we try to eat it anyway. If it is the wrong entree, we will try to eat it (if there is no price differential, it is something that we would have ordered anyway, or there is no food allergy). We usually don’t order appetizers or refills, so they aren’t having to come by our table an excessive number of times. We usually tell them if we want dessert prior to them leaving our check so they don’t have to make an extra trip or make out another receipt. We will also tell them how our checks are to be rung up so they don’t have to make out another receipt. We compliment them and tell them please/thank you multiple times. And when service is exemplary, we will ask to speak with the manager and e-mail the company. So, the obnoxious statement is both unwarranted and prejudicial.
Any posts that were written, have been basically about things that get under my skin. Just like when you or I drive, we all have our pet peeves about other drivers. That does not mean that we are either obnoxious or arrogant. We are just pointing out little minor things that get on our nerves. Same thing applies here. I am just mentioning little minor things that get on my nerves. I don’t expect the server to comply with every little rule that was listed. If they don’t, they are still compensated with a tip. I will tip 15-25% unless the service is terrible-not checking on us period, going without any mention of a refill (when all that is left is ice), and exhibiting a poor attitude.
Tonight, i had dinner with my mother in law.. and the food and service were great, until the server took away our salad bowl.. and then our plates while they were still half full.. and then left the check and came back a minute later before we had even filled it out. The guy was nice, but it would have been nice to finish my food
That has happened to me and it always irks me. I wish they would wait until we either request our dishes to be cleared away or as we are preparing to pay. Since they have to clean off the table with a wet cloth anyway, why not wait to clear away the dishes then? Since they would not be able to wipe off the table and seats until the customers leave, just leave the dishes on the table until then. There are only two in my family so space is not usually an issue.
With regard to the check, I bet the server told you to “take your time.” They always say, “Take your time, I’m in no rush” and then they come back in two minutes to take your money. Sometimes it seems like it makes them mad when you tell them you haven’t had the time to get your money out for them to take.
Nice response in return of this query with real arguments and describing the whole thing regarding that.