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Thought: You’re stupid, or do you know Stupid Online People?

It probably happens to you every single day. Random online people add you left and right, wanting to show off to the rest of the world that they know you. You probably also add such online people, wanting to show the world that you have a lot of online contacts. While having a lot of online contacts feels very good, you sometimes pay a very strange price to be able to feel that good: the price of knowing Stupid Online People, SONP. Such a price usually offsets the good feeling, and can also overshadow it. Today, my thoughts are revolving around the concept of knowing Stupid Online People, and how such knowledge of the existence of such contactship affect our lives.

Among many other reasons, there are good, weird and bad reasons to meet people online. Today, I would like to think and focus on the idea of running into stupid people online and how running into the stupidly bad type of people, can be analyzed or thought about. In this article, I am focusing mainly on the stupid bad and ewwy people, and not the good, weird, or other types of online people.

 

06.28.09 By Bes. Posted in Online with No Comments yet →

Blank page, blinking cursor

by emily d stine of http://emmyappleseed.tumblr.com

Blank page, blinking cursor. I’m spread out like gravy on my desk chair waiting for the inspiration to come so I can trap it and morph it into words, paragraphs, pages. I am a poet turned fiction writer, a chapter virgin, a dialogue novice. I need some air.
 

The walk to Starbucks is brisk for an June night. I clutch my jacket around my shivering shoulders and trudge through the street anxious for the impending caffeine. I walk by the long rows of houses dark except for that spidery glow emanating from the curtained windows of family rooms. Its TV, I’m sure of it. They stare blankly into the twenty inch moving picture box. If you stop thinking that it’s a normal thing and look at TV for what it is, it becomes a little strange. We don’t even interact with it, we stare, hell we even listen, but I sure can’t lick my TV to understand what ice cream tastes like. There just seems to be so much beyond it. I’ll read, I’ll write, I’ll talk but to stare and let my brain go soft from lack of exercise is a waste. My brain is happiest with steady stimulation.

I continue to trek up the darkened street pausing for a moment to reflect in the soft warmth of a somber streetlight. I really do live my life inside my head. Even my best friends don’t know all that is stored beneath the hair. How can you ever really know another person, because like me, so much of what they are is kept unarticulated? A middle aged couple walks past me as I’m working through this in my head crunching at my fingernails. They eye me how we all secretly stare at strangers when we’re bored or curious. I look back at them but only for an instant, keeping my mannerisms in check with our society. But what I really wish to do is take that couple home with me and piece by piece go through their brains. How wonderful it would be to get together with complete strangers and bleed all the thoughts confined nonverbally in my head and theirs and piece together a fluid story. But life and cerebral cortexes are not designed in such a fashion that we can share our every thought with another person and play in them. Resigned, I give up on my idea and keep walking, the beautiful green mermaid/angel taunting me from a distance.

I take a deep breath before pulling open the door preparing to dance my part. My eyes down, my nose full of café au laits, and espresso, I immerse myself in the coffee shop culture. I smile at the college-age barista with the deep brown eyes as he steams milk and pours shots of writing stimulant into my drink. I wonder what stories he has to tell. I could ask him; listen as he tells me with a slight John Wayne-like twang that he has 80 pages of anthropology reading to do after he gets off at eleven. I dawdle at the register sipping my four dollar latte curious about him, curious about everyone. He brushes his hands through his hair as he tells me all the different types of people that come in and out of his life each day. “People tend to bring their moods with them wherever they go,” he says. “It’s interesting to see how people change after they get their daily dose as opposed to before. Coffee seems to get the conversation going. They’ll sit and chat for hours with one another and then come back the next day and do it all over again.”

This barista is beginning to intrigue me; I feel like he should be a writer too. I tell him that I am a writer and I’m working on writing a piece right now but am having trouble trying to actually throw the words down on the page so that they will be consistent and enjoyed by others. “I think your brain isn’t as structured as language is and that’s why it is problematic to write stories even when you do have a good idea,” I tell him as he steams more milk for other impatient customers.
“This is why I love anthropology,” he says topping a cappuccino with a thick layer of whip cream, “You learn about humans and our development of language and culture. Primitive species used extrasensory perception as a means to surviving, think about how hard that would be to help each other out without being able to talk about it.”

“I understand how useful language is so that we can work together and survive, but think about how hard it is to write a story for someone when words themselves are not just words,” I pause to sip, “but are weighed down with connotations and memories. Now you see what I’m going through trying to write something that everyone will like.”

“Well that wouldn’t be that hard,” says a man who has just ordered a grande almond soy latte with an extra shot of espresso. “Stick to cliché stories. Everyone has lost love, or a loved one. I work for the Daily Camera and people like to read about things they understand and relate to, it’s that simple.” The brown-eyed barista finishes pouring the steaming milk into his drink and hands it to him. I tell him that he’s got a good point but it’s more boring to write in boxes, in dichotomies. He smiles at me and says, “That’s life.” And then he tips his hat and walks out the door.

I chat with the barista a bit longer but I feel his interest in the topic waning so I thank him for the coffee and the chit-chat, slip a dollar in the tip jar for his two cents and prepare my body for the cold that awaits out the windowed walls and brown java chairs.

The walk home is colder than the one there but my mind is swimming with thoughts so I hardly notice. The guy at Starbucks has a valid point; cliché stories are often successful because they are easily relatable. They fit the good vs. evil, white vs. black polarization that our society stands on to function. One of Bush’s many aphorisms surfaces on my thoughts: “Either you are with us, or you are with the terrorists.” The opposition is so clear, making room for interpretation impossible, but I think that it is the murky stuff in between that is so interesting. I’m either in favor of going to war with a bunch of people that I have never met before on the principles of democracy and “our duty as Americans” or I am a pacifist terrorist or a terrorizing pacifist. I am either a size 00 with eerie plastic facial features or I am everybody else. I’m engaged in a polar war of gay or straight, white or black and American or terrorist in my head. Me versus me. Who do I want to be today?

I arrive home uncomfortably conflicted and cold. The house is dark and no telltale glow of TV shines from out my family room window. I make my way up the stairs hoping that the caffeine will work its magic, stimulate the conversation between my head and paper, and teach my fingers to dance symphonies on the keyboard. I am, however, always a little too hopeful. I think back to my talk with the anthropologist/barista. Language may have been good to talk about making fire or gathering fruit, but I am trying to make something wonderful out of words that mean different things for each person. They become so full of emotion that meaning is lost; the word evolves into something new. Am I trying to animate dead corpses of words? This will be harder than I thought.

So here I have landed. I’m back at square one, slumped in my desk chair. As the soy latte drinker said, I’m only allotted certain boxes of clichés for story hour. I have the father-daughter relationship, where something happens, and someone is changed by it. Or I could use the boy meets girl cliché, something happens and someone is changed by it. It’s the mold of the story prepared for me and all I have to do is add ingredients. Blank page, blinking cursor.

 

06.04.09 By emilydstine. Posted in General, Life with 10 Comments →

Why we should finally listen to those dirty hippies

1. There is nothing wrong w/ hippies people. Hygiene, some of you say, but dogs would probably say YOU smell pretty bad.

2. I know a hippie, his name is Stele. Stele wouldn’t hurt a fly. Stele actually kinda wants to save the earth, and what the HELL is wrong w/ that ?! Stele has a couple of websites that I’m a big fan of. . . I being Emily Dawn Stine or @emilydstine @emmyappleseed if you DIG twitter…. the first is HTTP://ECOFX.ORG this site measures your carbon FOOTPRINT. . . one pair of flipflops at a time.

3. Another site is http://xoearth.org which congratulates you for being a conservationist by asking you to proudly wear the brand “XO” on your arm or hand. IT’S THE PEACE SIGN FOR THE ECOCITIZEN. It’s a statement of yea so I use a waterbottle instead of wasting plastic bottles, so what?! go away! if you mean, then go away, if you CONSERVATIONIST eco citizen, then XO! It’s a way to say “Yea, I wanna save the earth, XO!” That’s all. Just XO.

4. Why XO @emilydstine? Well, here’s why the X is for homo sapien sapien the primate so cool they named it twice. Usually squished in there is a little circle for the head and the O is for the earth.

5. Stele and I were talking and we were wondering who is the foil to http://xoearth.org? [cough cough Dick Cheney] and what would this foil look like? Basically it would be a No Smoking sign encircling the earth next to a $ dollar sign. It means “Yea I know this is probably bad for the earth but I like money, so oh well.”

6. I get it. Money is fun, or it can be fun. But here is the thing you got to remember about MONEY & POWER. . . just make it tenable for the SURVIVAL of homo sapiens sapiens the primate so cool they named it twice.

7. Your daughter, your grandson, your future children. . . you gotta make sure the EARTH is still around [get it, round? haha] for them. If not well then man, you and your granddaughter are SOL [that means Shit out of LUCK]. We wouldn’t want that happening. 

 

So help me & my hippie friend Stele save the EARTH. Sign a pledge on http://ecofx.org. Use LESS! That’s it. You don’t have to drive a  car made out of hemp, we’re not even sure if that is possible. Just use less, buy less, recycle more. Just TRY! Above all try. PLEASE…. It’s not for me, it is for tomorrow.

Oh yea and read my blog [shameless plug] http://emmyappleseed.tumblr.com

signing off 
[typing out]

emily d stine
chief intellectual goddess
emmy appleseed moo.COW PRO duck SHINS

so what?

 

05.12.09 By emilydstine. Posted in Online, Ping.fm, Twitter Universe with 6 Comments →

Forever in shadow & Forever in dead

I’m feeling so dead today, both hell & heaven acting like strangers,
Why, instead of seeing angels & birds, I see scary whales everywhere,
Do I really want to fly, or do I simply want it as a tattoo?
If whales and monsters can really fly, I wonder if I can too?

I always knew it was the shadow, my shadow that kept me back,
and I always knew it was my shadow, the shadow that pulled me ahead,
Though today I wonder, if it was the other place where I would belong,
what if the shadow was me, and I have been the shadow all along?

Forever in shadow & forever in dead,
ohhhhhhhhh, ohhhhhhh ohh ohhhhhh!
Forever in shadow & forever in dead,
ohhhhhhhhh, ohhhhhhh ohh ohhhhhh!

 

05.10.09 By Bes. Posted in Life with 7 Comments →

Top 20 signs You Are A Twitter Addict

Twitter addict (by magerleagues)While Twitter is kind of a new online phenomenon for many offline people, it is kind of an evolutionary idea for many people who have been interacting online since the late 90’s. I have noticed so many people being obsessed with MySpace and Facebook for so many years that it seems kind of normal to actually start thinking of the new Twitter addiction that more and more people are unknowingly and happily jumping into.

I was talking to @Jerine from This-Is-The-Mad-Style and thought of many points in this list. I have talked about webcam obsession before. I have also talked about cell phone addiction earlier this year. Today, we will talk in detail about 20 top signs of Twitter addiction that you may notice or analyze in yourself and others.

Twitter addiction is something that was being discussed even back in March of 2008, when Top 10 signs you might need a Twittervention.” You can use twitter itself to find about twitter addiction also. It seems that the golden age has come when we can say we are addicts and be proud of it. Or at least we do not have to hide from others. Sure, saying “I’m a meth addict!” sounds and feels different than saying “I’m a twitter addict“, but either way, you are an addict and you are on your way to acting like one, if you already are not.

I have been using twitter a lot, specially lately, and today I would like to share with you some points which may show that you are a twitter addict. Maybe these points will help me figure out more about myself too. Maybe I already know, which is why I am posting this list. Smile Here we go:

Top 20 signs of Twitter Addiction

 

04.17.09 By Bes. Posted in Online with 15 Comments →

The World of Virtually, Virtually “Virtually” Word

I want to announce something today: If you read my articles, you will virtually make a lot of money, guaranteed! Let me explain how this works: you come to my site to read many of the different things I write. Then, you gain a lot of wisdom and you apply that wisdom to everything in your life. Because of that newly acquired wisdom-from-bes-zain-wisdom, you virtually start seeing positive results in everything and gain more money! Thus, in this very paragraph, I have helped you get virtually richer! Smile

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Now, if you are not drunk, or hyper because of eating way too much chocolate cake, you may think “Hmmm, let me check my bank account balance….hmmm, still the same amount of money as this morning! Where is the extra money this site claims to have brought in for me??!!” Do not panic: what you did learn, among many other things, is the effect of the word “virtually” on any claim that you may run across. The idea of promising or offering something by adding the word “virtually” around any statement of any kind is a common practise that is being employed by an increasing number of companies and individuals to add more verbal flavor to something that may otherwise, without the presence of the word “virtually”, be less attractive to potential customers. Today I would like to focus a bit on the thoughts I have about the concept of using the word “virtually” in order to describe something to a person to try to convince them to buy a product or a service due to the powerful impressions and amazing benefits the word “virtually” creates.

In other words, let us focus on the idea of using the word “virtually” to create an impression that, without further explanation about the limits of that impression, may inaccurately in order to gain a customer or some required response.

The idea of using the word “Virtually” in marketing

 

04.09.09 By Bes. Posted in General with 7 Comments →

Interview with Spoken-For.org creator, Valerie - Part 2

This entry is part 2 of 1 in the series Interview with Spoken-For.org creator, Valerie

73/365It has been almost one full year since the Spoken-For.org . When I started interviewing Valerie about her site, most of the focus was on how she handled comments on her website and what her commenting and related ethical principles were.

Valerie is the author of several high-traffic articles which have gathered a lot of attention from online readers. One of the most famous posts, and controversial in the minds of many, is called Why Geek Squad, Best Buy, and Compaq all suck. Because of the number of comments Valerie has gotten in the past and continues to get, I found/find it extremely important to see how Valerie views and deals with comments, since she runs into many different types of commentors on a regular basis.

Part 1 of the interview can be reviewed so you can catch up where we left off last time. There were 7 questions in part 1. There are 10 questions here today. Valerie was very patient with me and was more than happy to help me finish the 2nd part of this interview, even though she was busy with something very important that is mentioned in the very last question of this interview. So here you go: Smile

Interview with Valerie of Spoken-For - Part 2

 

03.18.09 By Bes. Posted in Online with 12 Comments →

Question: Do you prefer having a desktop, a laptop, or both?

Vintage 1984 computer - picture from http://www.sxc.hu/photo/1028528Today’s question is going to be a bit hard to quickly answer for many people. No, I am not talking about desk tops and lap tops. For this question, I am talking about desktop computers and laptop computers. At this very moment, you are probably on one of the many different reading devices that can access the internet: a desktop monitor, laptop, pda, mobile phone or something else. If you had a choice between having a desktop or a laptop, or both, what would you choose?

Your choice or preference in this case can have a greater impact than the impact of just having a computer based device around you. Your offline and off-computer life can get heavily affected due to such a choice. Having a laptop can mean that your sleep time includes browsing the internet for a little bit, and having a desktop in a cold room outside of your bedroom may mean that you spend less time on the computer in case you hated the cold weather. Having both a desktop and a laptop could mean a lot of things, like having access to the internet at the coffee shop and then getting back home, throwing the laptop onto the sofa and jumping on your desktop, literally or metaphorically.

Some random benefits of having a desktop:

 

02.16.09 By Bes. Posted in General with 28 Comments →

Top 43 signs you are obsessed with your cell phone

sprint-htc-tpWhat’s your number?” You probably hear that everyday. Or every other day. Or every other year . Online, offline, and in the dreams, someone somewhere is probably asking someone or something his/her/its cell phone number every second. Cell phone is like a necessity for many people today. You carry a small electronic device with you on which you can get calls from or make calls to anyone in this world who has a phone or something similar. You use it for many things like calling someone, setting up alarms, texting people, browsing the internet, listening to music, taking pictures, working on documents, looking at it while holding it with both hands to pretend you are busy, and more. Today, I would like to focus on your overall interest level in your cell phone. I will share with you some of the strange habits or trends that can signify your obsessions with your cell phone.

Cell phones are so common today that simply talking about them in terms of being a technology that is harmful to depend on raises not only a lot of heads but also creates a lot of confusion in people: “Why would a cell phone be harmful?” Using a cell phone has caused a lot of people to change their habits in strange ways, and many of such strange ways are so strange that they must be strange for strangeness itself in many cases. A few years ago I told you about webcam obsessions. Webcams have become so common that almost majority of all the new laptops today come with one built in. Today, let us dive into the concept of cell phone obsession, since cell phones are almost on the verge of becoming so common that anyone without a cell phone may find themselves being pointed out in public in the near future.

Top 43 signs you are obsessed with your cell phone

 

02.13.09 By Bes. Posted in General with 12 Comments →

Thought: It is illegal to sneeze, talk & blink while driving

There are many things in life that are considered illegal in different parts of the world. For many people, the concept of labeling something illegal in the eyes of the law tends to be equal to the concept of separating the good from the bad. The act of talking on the cell phone by holding it in the hand and to the ear, while driving, is one of the things that is now illegal in places like California . The reason behind such a law, according to the government officials, is that drivers cannot focus fully, nor react completely, to driving and driving situations like accidents if they are holding the phone in their hand instead of having both hands on the steering wheel. Today I would like to focus on some of my thoughts revolving around the idea of making it illegal to hold a cell phone and use it while driving for the sole reason that such an act, of holding the cell phone and driving, is dangerous.

cell-phone-talk-drive While paying more attention on driving than on the cell phone can indeed help avoid accidents of many different kinds, the approach to such a safety, by making different specific things illegal, like the act of holding an operating cell phone, on a continuous basis is very illogical in my view. There is a tendency in today’s trends to politically illegalize some things in order to try to curb out a different problem. “Many people cannot drive normally while using the phone? Let us ban everyone from talking on the phone if they hold it in their hands and to their ears.” In this article, I am going to list some random things that are usually done by drivers while driving, yet such drivers are not punished for them yet. I use the word “yet” because maybe one day such things will be illegal also, seeing how other normal things are banned on a massive level. If holding a cell phone while talking and texting on that very cell phone is considered illegal, maybe these other things can be considered illegal also because without common sense, you have to be told that punching yourself with a closed or open fist is illegal, instead of you realizing on your own that hitting yourself in any manner can hurt you.

The list below will show you how simply citing a single reason behind banning something does not mean it is logically or practically going to address an issue. I find it funny, among other things, that instead of educating people on more massive levels and making people realize on their own, the law enforces smaller and more specific rules on massive levels to curb down big problems. Such rules, while doing some good, do not necessarily address the entire issue or even the main issue in many situations. I like the idea of realizing whether someone’s driving is scary and then dealing with it compared to the idea of banning specific things completely and forever.

 

02.06.09 By Bes. Posted in General with 12 Comments →

Thoughts: 12 brief signs that you are obsessively desperate for any relationship

Relationships. Relationships. And more relationships. You probably experience different kinds of relationships every single day, or maybe every other month. You may like someone, and you may hate someone. Someone may like you, and someone may hate you. A relationship could be a professional one, or it could be an unprofessional one. It could be stereotypically stereotypical as a professional and unprofessional relationship, and it could be a combination of everything and be unstereotypical. In this article I would like to focus a bit on people who are desperate to be in any relationship, so desperate that their entire focus is to be in a relationship instead of on the other person.

In relationships, regardless of their nature, you may feel lonely or you may feel the exact opposite of loneliness, among many other things. The first part of my article series about bad relationship trends titled "Bad trends that hurt relationships - Part 1" focused, among other things, on some specific trends that hurt existing, new and potential relationships. The 12 points below focus briefly on signs, or traits, that may classify you as being desperate in and for a relationship, which could be the main driving force behind a person’s interest in being in any relationship.

I have been noticing some recurring trends of desperation for a while in different people I have met in person and online for a long time now. I decided to collect my thoughts and list 12 of the many basic signs of desperate-traits that define and lead the way for bigger characteristics in such people.

12 brief signs you are obsessively desperate for any relationship

 

01.26.09 By Bes. Posted in Life with 7 Comments →

Question: Do multiple microblogging services eable more online waste?

Brightkite.com logoDuring the past 3 months, I’ve twisted microblogging and similar treats to my own liking, posting everything from random thoughts to my food adventures to crazy findings and more. While majority of the social networking platforms, which are mainly modifications and upgrades to the concept of socialization and blogging, appear to bring in a lot of visitors to my profiles and my websites, and a regular flow of new friend-add requests from friends, strangers and other creatures alike, I am beginning to wonder if I’m leaving behind some kind of an online excess waste for my ownself. The idea of having multiple social networks is awesome. The idea of jumping onto multiple social networks and using them at the same time for the same exact content is what I am pointing out with this question.

Twitter.com logoWith several social networking accounts, I usually have similar kinds of posts on many of such accounts. It is like a book: If I write a single book with a single cover and name, and sell it on different platforms, my single content source, the book itself, will get read and be my own creation that is easy to manage and identify with. If I produce the same content under different book names and editors and covers, with each book having the same content inside but different formatting and names and covers on the outside, I will confuse myself and it may be harder to manage all such book types, even though from the inside the book is exactly the same. I wonder if participating with the same content on multiple social networks can be viewed along the same lines.

Does being part of multiple social networks mean that there is more tendency for us to leave behind online waste?

 

01.11.09 By Bes. Posted in Online with 3 Comments →

Invitation codes for different services

Every now and then I will run into a new service that depends on invitation codes system to be able to gather more attention. This article page will serve as an up to date collection of different invitation codes I have for different services so far. Please note that so far, I am only listing sites and services that I use, so you can hope that I do not lose interest in any service, or the online world, completely. You can see the list of services I currently use in the right hand sidebar under the title “Find/add me on….”

Following are some invitation codes I have or the place I know where you can get them.

  • Brightkite - I can invite you. Signing up from their main page will also result in an invitation code. I got mine within a day.
  • Jaiku - I can invite you.
  • Kwippy - I can invite you. Signing up from their main page will also result in an invitation code. I got mine within an hour.
  • YouAre - Their main page can send you an invitation code. I got mine within an hour I think.

Please feel free to leave a comment below or contact me through other ways to request an invite code. When you leave a comment, you can leave your e-mail address in the e-mail address field instead of the public comment area.

You are not obligated to leave me a comment when you request an invite, nor are you obligated to add me as a friend/contact/buddy/stranger on any of these services. Doing yummy things should always be voluntary, yay, since I believe in a yummy life! Thanks! Smile

 

09.24.08 By Bes. Posted in Online with 27 Comments →


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